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Unexpected turn

19 Aug

I knew changes were coming. There had been talk since April and even conversations which lead me to believe my voice mattered. The end result is not what I hoped for.

Or is it?

I wanted a change. A new position to feel challenged again. I wanted to grow in a new direction. I got that. I wanted to move closer to my career goal and I am.

What I did not want was to move physically to a new space. I like where I am and who I am with. It saddens me to think about moving.

What bothers me most is the reason for the move. To be micro managed. One person wants control and she worked her manipulative skills to end up with exactly what she wants. I detest that.

I am trying to know what my lesson is in this time of change. I embrace change, however this time part of it is tearing at me.

I need to ask and listen for the answer to feel settled.

and so it begins

16 Oct

After searching for 9 months, I found a job! My persistence checking the same sites every couple of days finally paid off.

When I read the job description, excitement bubbled up from the center of my soul. A job that matched my skills and experience perfectly! It seemed to good to be true and even as I hit the send button, the waiting began. Each day that passed, I wondered when someone would call to set up an interview. When a week went by, I felt some discouragement. How could they not call me for an interview. My husband, being one of my biggest supporters, said there couldn’t be another applicant with the same professional experience who had applied. Late Friday evening, at 10:30, I saw the light flashing on the answering machine. I expected to hear my friend’s voice but instead I heard the voice of a woman from the university asking me to call her!  I spent 20 minutes doing the happy dance with my husband…no we actually danced and jumped around. Then we had a glass of wine to celebrate.

Wow, I had couldn’t believe it, even though I expected them to call.

Sometimes in life, there is a great gift, an opportunity that might as well have your name written all over it. This was one of those moments! I felt confident for days until two days before the interview then, my nerves took over. I prepared for the interview, but nothing could settle the nerves which were building up day by day. The day before my interview I sat on my meditation cushion to breathe deeply and find peace. As I sat there, allowing my thoughts to float away into nothingness, Meg, a very wise woman whom I met on a women’s retreat, appeared. Meg simply smiled at me with her bright, clear blue eyes and warm, supportive smile. I instantly relaxed. Rita appeared bedside Meg and they both continued to smile. Their confident smiles assured me that all was well and all was as it should be. The message I received was  to stop worrying because what was about to happen was already written and could not be changed. I was to enjoy the experience and be true to myself.

The morning of the interview I reviewed two scenario questions and left the house feeling confident and excited. I met the women in the office where I would be working, and then walked into a room with an interview panel of four people. Talk about intimidating!  This was my first real interview in 14 years!  On the left side of the table sat a man and woman who both gave off very warm, friendly and positive vibes. On the right side of the table sat another man and woman who both gave off more reserved, contained, cool vibes. They asked me a series of scenario questions, one at a time and took notes. I was pleased with my answers and felt I did the best I could.

The interview took only 25 minutes and then the warm and friendly woman gave me a tour of the faculty floor. There was only one other time I had a building tour immediately following an interview, in 1996 at the interview for the position I held until I stayed home to raise a family.

The very evening of my interview I received a message asking for my references so they could check them before welcoming me on board!!!  I was ecstatic!  I emailed my references to let them know they’d be receiving a phone call. As each person gave a reference, they emailed to let me know, but it was not until 4pm the last reference check was complete.

Sunday evening as we were about to enjoy a sushi dinner, I received a phone call for the job offer!  I GOT THE JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!

In my excitement of hearing I got the job, I forgot to ask my salary! Imagine being so happy to get a job you accepted before knowing what you were going to make! Hilarious.

I have been on the job now for 4 weeks and love it!  I work with a varied group of interesting people, who are all willing to help with anything I am still learning.

I am so thankful for this position, which is a perfect fit for what I was looking for in terms of being a match for my experience, the hours I work and the location.

My months of wishing and putting it out to the universe truly worked!  After being a stay at home Mom for 11 years, I have a full-time job and love it!  The transition has been easier than I anticipated, and my children are excited that Mommy is working at a university now.


9 Feb

Pregnant with my first child I was adamant I would go back to work after my maternity leave, but spending nine months with my baby growing inside me changed my perspective on life. My decision to stay at home was based purely on the selfish thought that nobody could raise my child with the same love, attention, empathy, patience and care I could. 

What I was not ready for were the looks of pity I would receive from people I met who heard I was a stay at home Mom. I left a career I loved in HR, a degree under my belt for future use, I was not ashamed of being “just” a Mommy. Society has other impressions of women who stay at home. There have been so many times during the past ten years people have looked embarrassed for me when I’ve told them I am a stay at home Mom, moving on to make conversation with others in the group. Shame on me for actually starting to believe it just a little. I am looking for a job, part-time, to fit the busy schedule of my children with a husband who travels frequently. Initially wondering what possibly would fit our schedule, I found jobs that could work. If only I could get an interview.

Today I was pondering the fine line separating happiness and depression. At times it seems the world is at my feet, happiness everywhere I look in my life, but then I feel overcome with sadness, feelings of loss for the years I was not working to keep up my professional standing. I certainly wasn’t sitting on my butt eating bon bons the past ten years. I had three children spaced 20 months apart, volunteered at a co-operative preschool, chaired a committee at the preschool for the years my children attended, volunteered and continue to volunteer for a rescue group close to my heart, volunteered in the classrooms at elementary school, and chair two committees for the SCC all this on top of being a Mom to three children and running a household as a single parent for at least half of the year.

Would I make the same decision to stay at home? I cherish the years I have been able to finger paint, make crafts all day, attend library story times, bake cookies, go for nature walks, play in the sandbox, go to the park, nap with my toddler and infant. These are moments the past ten years were made of and nothing could be sweeter.

What will I tell my children if they face the same decision as adults: to stay home or work?  I’d like to think I will tell them to stay home, cherish the time with their children while they are young.


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